Ganb8te 5 - Escaping the abyss

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Hey Maybell! I confess that I've not checked in on you for a while either. Sorry to hear that you've been in a bit of a hole.

Yeah, I'm still "married" - but we can't file till May so... Last time I saw H was in December with a couple of texts in between. You've stopped by at a good time though as next week there is some action! After a lengthy internal debate, I reached out to H before I left for Europe just to say it would be nice to catch up when I got back. No expectations. He responded warmly and locked in a date. Actually I think this is a pattern - he won't initiate contact on his own, but once I have for whatever reason, he goes the extra mile and invites me out for a drink. Depending on how things are going next Tuesday I may ask what he thinks about the idea of getting together a bit more regularly if there is something fun on. But mostly I plan to do this:

Here's a novel idea.... the WAS that left you because they didn't want to be with you is suddenly spending more time with you, suddenly communicating with you more often, doing things with you, smiling with you, is comfortable with you. Keep doing what you're doing! Don't bring up relationship talk, talks of reconciling, enjoy the moment! Stop worrying about the future, you don't know what tomorrow will bring so stop worry about tomorrow, enjoy today if today is the day your WAS wants to talk with you and share a drink or a meal with you or wants to do something with you & the kids. Be humble and appreciate the time you have with them, don't hasten the process and demand that things have to change and that you need to reconcile at this moment. Consider this a form of dating even if it isn't officially labeled as such.