I agree with Zeus. Whilst some of the behaviour isn't great (and great you're reflecting on that) it doesn't sound like emotional abuse either. Not that I know much about this area.

I can see if all of the above was daily and relentless, it would be pretty miserable to live with, and starts to look more like abuse.

To me abuse is when you are constantly undermining someone's wellbeing and confidence and so on. Or behaving from time to time in more severe ways. And doing that to gain some power or sense of wellbeing yourself.

Maybe read some more around this subject before you accept that you have been abusive.

Also, I think this is a continuum where at one end we have loving, supportive.......and at the other we have constantly humiliated, threatened and denigrated. Where on that dontinuum were you do you think?

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

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