Here -would be my suggestion. First - it's certainly reasonable to apprach your STBXW (maybe in writing) and say that while you do not want a divorce, you will protect your rights and assets. However - contesting everything with lawyers will cost you both money you do not have, You can share what your lawyer told you and then you might consider attaching some of the forms that would be filed with the court. I'm in California and had to fill them out - you can google them to find them. They are very straight forward and easy to read. You list all your assets and debts - and indicate how you are suggesting they be split and then they are added up on the bottom line. I'm guessing she may have already given you her version.
