I'm going to be coming with a lot of baggage to anyone brave enough to draw close to me. I think it will be fairly easy to separate the wheat from the chaff. Chaff need not apply. I'm not going to be watching past behavior. I'm going to watch very closely how they are with me. How included am I in his life? How interested is he in mine? Are we making plans together? Are we making short term plans that are fun and that reveal more of us to one another? Is he willing to learn to love what I love, and share what he loves with me? That's what I'll be watching for. .
Although I don't dwell on it, I have thought about this. Yes I'm gonna be dragging some baggage with me. And I go back and forth between whether I'll put up with too much cr*p because that's what I am used to doing, or whether I'll be so picky that no one could ever live up to expectations. I hope I find a middle ground. And a great guy.
