I've looked back at our M and I still wouldn't consider my self controlling. However, I see that W and I had trouble setting boundaries. Especially when it came to her efforts outside of the house. Volunteering, going out with friends, etc. We were fine with that stuff before kids because we both didn't get affected by the other not being home. Once we had kids though, we struggled to find a balance. W wanted to be out a lot >3x per week which was not conducive at the time since the kids were so young. it seemed like normal planning of a married couples' activities. Not that it matters, but she spent more time out of the house than most of our other friends with kids, it just wasn't enough for her.
So I guess that was me trying to set boundaries but could be conceived as controlling. Other than this, I still don't see any overly controlling tendancies.
Last edited by MCS; 03/26/1511:43 PM.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
