For the LBH who has a WW Part 3

[Zues126]

raliced- I have thought long and hard about that. For example...if I was shipwrecked on a desert island with another attractive female, and despite our best efforts to summon help months turned into years and by all outward signs we'd be stranded for many more years or permanently...YES, I would break my vows. So certainly there is a point at which we are all human.

I would also kill if it was in an extreme context (extreme self defense). That doesn't mean that I don't regard murder as the most committal and inappropriate ways we could behave.

And while it's possible to construct these circumstances to prove a philosophical argument, to me the idea that "since we've just proven we're all capable, we all have the potential to be guilty so we shouldn't act like it's that big of a deal" doesn't hold water.

Despite YEARS of frustration, resentment, lack of physical affection, or anything. I was ready to live the rest of my life in a sexless M without feeling appreciated, but I also got years of IC and was trying to find ways to improve the M in which I felt stuck. So I don't appreciate being told "we could all do it" when there is NO WAY I would break my vows in anything like "real life" conditions.

And if my WW did come out of her fog and demonstrated the growth over a period of time that lead me to believe she felt this way, I would STILL be open to R despite my betrayal and pain BECAUSE I believe in M.

Does that mean I am judging or condemning those who do? That I am not empathetic to the temptations and compelling nature of affairs? That I hold myself as a more righteous person? No. I understand that, and can appreciate that we live in a broken world where many people get drawn in to things that conflict what they used to believe is true. I am simply stating my beliefs and convictions and reasserting what I am looking for in someone else.