Trying to Follow DB & DR

[MrBond]

"I didn't do the one chore in the house that I was asked to do."
Has this changed?

"Didn't clean up after myself in and around the house."
Has this changed?

"Complained about the R between the W, OC and I."

What did she not like about it?

"The W stated I made her do things she didn't want to do in the past and now it was my turn."
Like what?

"Used back pain as an excuse to get out of things."
Like what?

"Constantly wanted reassurance that she loved me either vocally or by touch."
These are just your insecurities.

"Convinced her we were better off staying home during weekends playing video games instead of heading out and blowing all our money."

This comment of "blowing all of our money" shows contempt towards her. You didn't want to spend the money or go out and do something that maybe didn't cost that much or nothing. Would you have rather spent the money now or live the way you do now?

"Convinced her she was better off not spending money on salon and nail visits and that she could get just as good results at home if she did things her self. (Again a money/control issue)"

Yes.

"Basically allowed her to wait on me hand and foot and not really ever allowed her a break or show her any appreciation."

Really?

"Little by little over holidays/birthdays she would claim she didn't want anything so I would only get her flowers, take her to dinner, instead of getting her something."

Plus you probably thought that getting her something would be a waste of money.

"She kept asking for a diamond anniversary ring, I kept telling her she had to wait until the correct year.

Same here about the money.

"Didn't suggest anything in the way of a vacation or a reward for her to spend the money she's earned and take some time off of work.
Meanwhile I would take frequent "work from home days"."

Again, probably didn't want to spend the money.