Complex No. 6 - The turtle and the rabbit

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I have read that book. I liked it. Very helpful.

What Starsky said in your thread tho is very true: if you are in a place where you are not detached enough, not confident enough, still struggling with enotions..then you should NOT go ahead and "try to connect" with your WAW.
The mindset needs to be right.
Also remember the DR book. Pick your spots wisely. A) only do, if any, serious talk when W is receptive and open, not when she's tired after work etc etc and more important B) only when you feel like you are on your DB A-game!!


Hm my postings don't get a lot of recognition recently. I'm in a good place but I still make a lot of mistakes and need to keep working hard on myself,...for a long time.
Me and W are on the friendly side again. She's even texting me about stuff, like the plane crash in Germany we talked a lot about.
I'm still GAL a lot. Volunteer training next week, super excited. I'll go camping soon I decided, maybe just half an hour down the coast, camp, bbq and surf 1-2 days. My work is taking off, I'm busier than ever, have long work days, work out a lot, are good at school, have new friends I hang out with...etc.

I'm mainly working on finding the right strategy of DB in my current situation. Still so many open questions. Especially techniques how to present myself so W changes the picture of me she has right now. Ill traf Old Posts in my threads again and DR again to review some advices.

I just want a game plan. Maybe I'll sit on it tonight and draw a clear picture of where I want to be, what I'm doing and also how to technically deal with W in certain situations. So I know "ok this is the situation -> this is my position, this is what I do in this situation".