Starsky, yes I briefly read about boundaries but I haven't spent much time studying that topic to figure out how to apply it to my situation.
I do not want to live in an open marriage. My problem is to find out the right strategy to achieve that.
I afraid that me being confrontational will make her go back to her old ways of not giving a damn. I'm torn between waiting it out, give her space and let the affair die vs setting firm boundaries with the risk of inviting more drama.
