Oh, because after our last mediation, the paperwork goes to the courts and we are divorced.
EyeTie, my wife and I nearly divorced. She had an affair in the summer of 2007, it ended that August, and we had some fits and starts for nearly two years of piecing thereafter. It went so far as me having her served with D papers, and us each retaining our own attorneys, and eventually meeting -- twice -- with a divorce mediator. We had gotten as far as divvying up who-had-which-holidays with the kids, etc., etc., before we stepped back from the abyss and finally reconciled once and for all.
And as pointed out above, people also do get remarried to their original spouse as well -- I believe the figure is 20%, with nearly all of them reporting that the new marriage is FAR better than the original one.
There is still hope, for sure. I'm happy that thru the grace of God and our own hard work at it, my wife and I have since celebrated the birth of two granddaughters (with another one on the way in Sept.!), our 25th wedding anniversary, and will this summer be celebrating our 30th and renewing our vows.
