#1. When she schedules mediation, don't go! You don't have to let her call the shots and mach to her orders. Repeat, you do not have to participate in this any further if you don't want to. Tell the mediator that you are thinking things over. Period. This can go on for months if not years to take pressure off you. She is pressuring you into making a decision that she wants. You are in the power seat - not her.
