hold on! - 8

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Thank you Zues and Starsky!

I agree!
I do.
I have been riding this roller coaster by choice.
I am getting off. We are figuring out how to tell the kids.

I do know that there is no point in her showing me the phone now - it is pointless and I don't think she will even do that now. She does not want me invading her privacy even when she has had full access to everything of mine - no secrets, no hiding (kind of beside the point now though)


We are separating - and we will get distance. (I am separating as a step for divorce, she may have other ideas)

She has admitted the lies. (she says she was sparing our feeling). She just gave me the ILYB we ANIL.

She wants to physically separate too. I feel like this is a good step.

She has been blowing up my phone today and I have not responded yet and don't think I will at this point. She is sending me information about a "birds nest co-parent arrangement. Which maybe makes some sense.

Anyone ever do this? Kids stay at home all the time, parents alternate one at a time, and have small apartment somewhere else.....

Thanks again for everyone's support - I need it.

I don't think she will feel the impact of me being gone though. We would have equal kid time, but I will still be taking care the house. I don't know if we will feel separated.