But I don't think that kicking her out of the BR is appropriate at this point. I believe Rai is in a different position (I quickly browsed through it). It seems they are already going separate ways but still living under the same roof. Nope. You can apply the same concept to your situation. You can ask her to leave the bedroom. You two are still living under the same roof. Same thing.
My W appears to want it to work it out again between us, but is having difficulties letting go of OM. You cannot let W back in too easy. She MUST separate from the OM permanently. Otherwise, her words are just bluster and bluff.
I'm going to observe for a while (couple weeks). She's going to start a new role within her company on April 1. She won't have the freedom of coming and going as she pleases, unlike in her current position. I'll look for some changes.. if I notice continuos texting and questionnable situations that make me think she met with OM I'm going to tell her, she needs to def cut off all contacts with OMthis is a controlling statement. Instead, convey to her that you are not willing to live in an open M and that W has some decisions to make., or else I'll continue my plan of going away for a whileWrong answer. You don't run away like a whipped dog with it's tail between the legs. Don't go all wet noodle on your W. NOW is the time to state your boundary in no uncertain terms. .
Lose your fear of a "confrontation" for your W is misbehaving badly with her A. Why are you a scaredy cat around her? I am sure you've faced many complex challenges and you've come out okay. Just view this situation as another one.
