I sorta agree and I sorta disagree, Wonka -- I think it all depends on "how far down the wayward path" they are. I do believe there comes a point where they are so addicted (even chemically) to the PEA rush and to the attention of the affair that it's difficult for them to extract themselves. However I also believe that someone with a strong moral character still knows "right from wrong" even at this stage, and I also believe that BEFORE it gets to this stage is when I'm saying they should sit down and try one more time to get thru to their spouse.
"Honey, I know we've discussed this before, but i AM NOT HAPPY in this marriage, and I find myself losing respect and attraction and love for you and even now finding myself attracted to others. Before I go down a path that I know is wrong, and KNOW won't solve anything, I'm hoping we can talk about this and maybe get some marriage counseling or go on a Retrouvaille weekend or something before it's too late."
Some version of that.
I do understand the pull . . . I just think that morally and ethically, we are still obligated to resist it. And if we can't, we should get a D or at least a S before deciding to have an affair.
