Your not living in limbo. Your wife has said it's over. Accept that, start acting like it's over. Move on with YOUR life. Maybe she will follow and maybe she won't. But right now denial isn't getting you anywhere.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction