It's just messed up when my W, in one or two occassions, expressed her doubts about reconciling. She compared me with OM, telling me how sweet and thoughtful he is and she says she has seen that side of me only for a brief time (when I was in chasing mode after the bomb dropped) and she believes I'm starting to slip back to my old self now.
Say "I'm sorry you feel that way, and I'm certainly working on my own issues -- for ME. However, it's incredibly disrespectful to me and to our marriage for you to sit here and discuss your feelings for another man with me like I'm your gay boyfriend or something. You can talk to me about ANYTHING, but not that, and if you do, I will end the conversation immediately."
