We did talk about my distrust and I asked her to see her phone. She declined and asked if that is really what I want, that would really help.
It would. My guess is that she will give it to me tonight after she's cleaned it. Argg!! (see - there's my phone, nothing on it)
Of course. If she offers, I would say "No, no need to now that you've wiped it clean. Not showing it to me when I asked you last nite told me everything I need to know, thanks."