hold on! - 8

[Zues126]

Uturn, I have read your sitch but this morning the details aren't all clear in my memory bank. But what I see right NOW is this:

You have a WW wife that is in an affair, is lying to you, playing you emotionally, and essentially out of control. She is addicted to OM and is grabbing at anything and everything to make her feel better. The words she is speaking will be inconsistent and irrational because she isn't operating on any type of consistent values or logic, but instead just spewing out words based on where her emotions are on her internal rollercoaster.

You, on the other hand, are reacting to each of her phases of the roller coaster like they are true or real, or as if you think she'll get off this ride because you ask her to nicely.

Cadet says to DETACH, GAL. Why are you on the roller coaster with her? I get so FRUSTRATED watching guys "have conversations" with their WW's. Why are we having conversations? You already know the script. More lying, manipulation, emotional blackmail. Seriously. What is the point?

Stop talking. Start acting. Speak through ACTIONS ONLY. If you tell her "you're done" she won't believe you anyway because the very act of TELLING HER is PROVING that you are still attached. Instead you need to pull up your pants, check your ID and remind yourself who the F you are, slap yourself in the face a few times to get fired up, and TAKE CONTROL of the situation.

Boundaries- CHECK
Detaching- CHECK
GAL- CHECK
No more conversations- CHECK

If you don't take control of the situation you're going to get run over and mowed down again and again until you feel like a pathetic victim. Don't go there any further.