Hi Sk

You may want to have a look at Wonka's recent post on Rai's thread in Newcomers on boundaries.

I think it helps to show that confirming a boundary needn't cause a drama...

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Me 48 H 46
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D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus