SUMMARY: WAW and I are still separated. She's still in contact with OM, but it is very seldom. Have confirmed from her and others that they had their falling out. An OM2 came along but supposedly nothing physical. She's ashamed that she got to know OM2. No mention of divorce.
So in my last post of old thread I thought I discovered W had been physical with OM2 through her text messages. I did confront her about it, but she says they never had sex. I asked several times if she was telling the truth, but she stuck to nothing happened. She even spoke on their encounters and how they met. I haven't reread the text convo which I recorded with my phone, but I don't know whether she's telling me the truth or not.
This past Mon. was our 9yr anniversary. We didn't spend the typical anniversary together. We did make grocery with each other and the kids because we both had to get things from the store. When she dropped me off at home and while unloading my groceries, I said to her that I wanted to acknowledge that today was our anniversary, it is what it is, I know this isn't the typical way an anniversary is thought of, but I just wanted to acknowledge it. She said okay. She had to get something out of the marital home and when she came back out she got in her vehicle, but then got back out to say somewhat of the same to me, and proceeded to give me a 10 sec or so hug.
Yesterday, I was on Facebook and noticed she had posted something about me in regards to our anniversary. It read,
"9 years ago I married an amazing man. A man that I have been through some great times with and a man that I have been through hell with. We may not always see eye to eye and we continue to go through tough times but he is still and will always be an amazing man. God knows I was not an easy woman to deal with and we have had more than our fair share of suffering but Arcola has grounded me, provided for his family and been a loving father to any child who stepped foot through our door. I admire and respect so many things about him and am truly blessed to have him in my life."
I was touched, surprised, and didn't know what to make of this. I didn't Like or comment on it and I don't believe she knows I've read it.
Yesterday, W hit a low. Since we've been separated it seems she has had a rough time getting all the kids ready and getting to work on time. Her boss had commented on this. So she tells me of this and she's truly scared of losing her job, and feels the low that she is at. I don't want her to lose her job, so I offered solutions to help her out since she for the most part doesn't want me coming over in the morning to help get them ready.
She sent me an email today while at work stating she was having dreams/nightmares about our situation last night. She didn't go into any detail, but it seems to me she is beginning to analyze our separation.
This weekend we are to spend it overnight in a nearby city, doing activities with the kids. Last weekend in this same city we stayed overnight and I pursued and we ended up having sex. I hope that my will power is strong enough to keep me from pursuing this weekend. She has told me before she doesn't necessarily welcome my advances. Nonetheless, she has commented that she enjoys the time we spend together with the kids, but doesn't know if its because of how we interact with the kids together or because she enjoys being around me individually too. When she does say she has had a good time, I simply reply I enjoyed myself too.
Last edited by Arcola; 03/26/1505:20 AM.
Me:30 W:34 M:8 T:9 D:9 D:4 D:3 S:4 S:1 D bomb: 8/2014 S 12/2014 PA Confirmed in 3/2015 if I recall correctly
