My burning question #1 tonight for the community here: How might I tell the difference between a wife who walks away because we were too enmeshed, too codependent, too involved to EACH have very much autonomy; and a wayward wife who walks away because of these things PLUS the fact she has another man in her life?
No person amongst our group of friends has come out and said that she is having an affair but my gut tells me she probably is - or was and stopped - but still wants D.
So here is my burning question #2 for the community: Should I continue to remain friends with her on social media? I am not one who spends nearly as much time and effort there as she does. When I do go online, I am not sure I need to see constant reminders of her current well being plastered all over the place nor do I want her to feel she has access to really any area of my personal life while she is asking me for a divorce. It's hard enough that we share so many mutual friends in real life!
Again, social media is highly important to her but is only a small part of my normal day.
I feel as though "Unfriending" her there will be the kind of move that takes some courage on my part and will be a clear sign for her that I am not going to just be friends with her there or in real life while she breaks up our marriage. Like me saying "Since you asked me for a D, I am taking away your all-access pass". It seems both a healthy and risky move for me to make with the amount of importance she places on social media.
Also to Cherry and Starsky309: could you guys maybe post in here the link to where I can read your stories? I would like the opportunity to read and respond to your threads, and haven't been successful in finding them thus far.
Me 39 waw(ww) 26 M 5 years ILYBINILWY No children, miscarriage 3/14 EA 11/2015, confirmed 4/2015, pa? Separated 2/2015 She files D 4/15/15 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
