Hi MCS, thanks for stopping by. Yes, my H is a mess and I have no idea when he will became normal again. But, like you said, it is hard to watch them destroying their lives and know that they are the only ones that can change the scenario.
I decided to follow all the advice I got here. I need distance from H, need to have clear boundaries, need to let go all his craziness, have more self respect, go dark with no flashlights. Detach, I need to detach.
H will do what he needs to do, but I won't be around because it makes me slide way back when he brings his turmoil around me.
You know, it's frustrating for me, but during 20 years in the US, people asked me if I am French. I have an accent when speaking english. My first language is Portuguese from Brazil, I also speak fluent Spanish. Can you believe that I have a french accent? Ahg... I hate the comment.
Maybe I can speak english with RD, then if we have more time, he can teach me how to speak Irish. I did Latin in college, so have some language background. If it does not work, well, then going to Barnes & Nobles to get my Rosetta. Great idea by the way!
