Your sitch seems like a foreshadow of how I see my W spiraling emotionally. I'm starting to see it more and more with her. I haven't checked into your sitch in a while and I can see that it is very volatile also.
I'll say this, though. H is lost, he's not sure what he wants and is falling for what his emotions and feelings are at the time. He sees what he's losing when he's with you and probably feeling similar with OW when he's with her. He's just a mess and that's not on you to fix it. The toughest thing we have to do is realize that only they can change themselves and they may never choose to do it. You are a shining example of how DB has grown you into someone that can objectively handle very complex and emotional interactions.
I'm sure this is so tough and painful, but I can definitely see that Pink is going to be just fine for any outcome. If I was posting on your sitch more, I would make a joke and ask if there's one of those Rosetta Stone language programs to develop an Irish Accent (okay, maybe I just did)
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
