Masterpiece - a little more progress...

[Jer2911]

Reading this I went straight to that thought too Jer .. and you were wise not to let that come out, as hard as it might be to wanna shake em they are just not able to see through the fog. My W hit a bit of a $$ issue too, and was all about the nickel and dime approach, I never really helped her in this area, when she pressed me a year or so ago about it I calmly told her I was not funding her A ... oh the spew that day was a good one.

Yeah -- I knew better than to go there with her... However, when my fantastic new high-paying job materializes, there probably will have to be some tough discussions regarding family budget and full transparency regarding income and expenses (for both of us) because while I am happy to contribute more to our family I do not want to be funding these international trips for this stupid A.

I am also interested to see OWs future reactions to this news, if there is no more honey out of this pot .. maybe she moves to another tree as we all have guessed if this might be a scam or if she is really interested. Definately puts a kink in their fantasy and that is in your favor regardless right?

Most definitely puts a kink in their fantasy... I doubt I'll really know what OW thinks about this, but I assume when she does decide to break things off with W there will be some noticeable signs in my W (depression, withdrawal symptoms from the A?)

Even if she doesn't break it off immediately, this certainly does cause some problems for them because it does mean that I am not moving out of the house as quickly as they both hope.

And -- when I do get my fantastic new job, it's quite possible that there will be a shift in power dynamics within our household because I'll suddenly be making a lot more money and no longer dependent on my W... I really don't have any clue what that is going to look like or be like right now, but I can't imagine there won't be some shift in those dynamics.

Keep focused, worry about you, you are really doing this right.

Thanks! I've had a great day today despite this financial sitch that in the past would really have me very nervous. Just got an email from W about some potential freelance work for me with her current client and when I replied back in a positive way she replied back with a positive response. In her reply she mentioned that we need to sit down soon to work on a budget -- she's NEVER asked us to sit down to work on a budget the entire time we've lived together, so I know this financial sitch really has her sweating... I don't mean that in a bad or malicious way -- it's just an observation about her right at the moment. FWIW - I want everything to work out for the best for all of us and for none of us to be under this kind of stress... But a lot of that is out of my hands, so I just continue to focus on me while keeping lots of prayer around the entire sitch.