Can I revisit this - "responsible for making happy" theme?
I think we all have a responsibility not to cause unhappiness for our spouses. By this I mean we know of examples where partners have been critical, angry, negative and so on. And I think these things cause unhappiness in the recipient.
So, I think there's a responsibility not to cause unhappiness for others in such ways. But I think the primary responsibility for happiness lies within ourselves. But it would be difficult to be happy with an angry, critical, negative partner if you see what I mean.
However, if you have a partner who is generally pretty nice, and 'good enough' and you are unhappy within yourself, that may well be more yours to fix.
Does that make sense?
Yes, I totally agree with that and you've put it well, Toots. While it's not our responsibility to be their CAKE, but rather their FROSTING, it's also incumbent on us not to do things that deliberately RUIN their cake! Harley calls these "love busters."
Hey Vanilla, how'd I do on the metaphors, O Queen of the Metaphors???
