You know no matter what your transgressions were, no matter how bad you messed up,
YOU did not cause the affair/infidelity!
I think most LBS's are codependent and tbh this is the area that they need to work on the most. Being told what to do and when to do it, is not healthy behavior. We are now adults and get to choose the life that we want to live. It takes a long time to understand that.
