For the Newcomer LBH who has a wayward wife Part 2

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There's a difference between feeling guilty for setting the stage and feeling guilty for the affair, without a doubt. I draw a heavy line at her actions once she decided that getting with OM was a reasonable option. I'm not responsible for anything she did with OM....events leading up to that, yeah, I feel quite responsible for a lot of those. That's where I beat myself up too, having been too self-centered to see the disconnect happening... that started long before she even knew OM.

I see the line very clearly. W, not so much.

I felt that something was off for a couple of years, but I didn't have the words and, to be honest, I was too much of a nice guy to sit her down and try to clear the air. I even had an odd premonition the weekend before BD. She was out of town with some girlfriends, and the thought struck me out of the blue that she was going to have something serious to discuss with me when she got back. No clue what, just a feeling.