Guilt is huge. I know all too well the things I did that helped set the stage for my current sitch. I was NOT the husband she needed a lot of the time. Classic case of self-centeredness and immaturity on my part. I've made no bones about the fact that I went straight from home to college to marriage without really ever growing up.
Her spew is often peppered with truth. The truth would sting, and prevent me from taking the strong stands earlier that I should have.
Sandi, your point about paying more attention to her actions than her words was right on. It actually gives me some hope...my W still talks a negative game a lot of the time...feeling lost, disconnected, feeling unattracted to me, etc., but her actions tell me that she's trying to reconnect.
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