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I think H has not yet reached the point where he has accepted he is willing to change. He may know he wants to and he may know that he needs to.

However there is a price to pay to change, H has not reached the point that he will pay it. I think this takes time, it is a big realisation. It may take months or even years. Z choose to be free of your demons and be happy. Try positive for a long while. H has to want to change and be willing to take the steps to do that.

In the meanwhile Z can consider her DB actions, back to basics and go GAL, 180s and act her own best interests.

You ask that which I did to get off the merry go round
1. Active GAL, more than I needed
2. STFU
3. Get away physically
4. Threw myself into my work
5. Exercise, hard physical exercise, dance and music
6. Good food, no alcohol or sugar
7. Sandi guidelines
8. Be with safe people but no longer talk about
9. IC and twelve steps

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Last edited by Vanilla; 03/25/15 07:42 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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