"I will read the infidelity chapter again. Are you talking about this specific chapter?"
No I'm asking if you read the whole book.
Going back to your story, you said that YOU were the one who was actually going to leave because you felt you got overwhelmed with things. And your breakdown and not working are what contributed to your W's subsequent breakdown and wanting to leave. The A is just a result of the chain reaction that you started.
So the only way to get on the right path is to go back and correct the things that started this mess in the first place.
Are you in individual counseling for yourself? For your mental health issues?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.