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[Mozza]

My suggestion to her was to get a job. Hellfire was rained upon me. I don't she'll be getting a job soon.

I don't want to finance her affair, but I also don't want to be a jerk about money. Things are fairly smooth now and this has the potential to stir up everything.

She leaves the M and then doesn't want to get a job? Am I getting this right? How does she expect to pay for her bills?

We see this with a lot of LBS: afraid of "stirring up everything" of rocking the boat, of causing awkwardness, etc. This is indicative, in my opinion, of a much deeper problem with the LBS, one that is about self-perception, standing firm and earning respect. Your W's finances are no longer your problem. You're not being a jerk, she is, and you're being fair. Her life, her money. She won't tell you, but it will make sense to her as well. When she raises hell about anything, it's with the objective of having you backing up. The only way to her goal is over you so she'll see how tall you stand. State your fair position, then leave the room.

In my opinion, each day she spends at your place should be cut off from her weekly check. Align the incentives.