Hi Pink. Wow. That was some weekend. Im sorry you and your S had to deal with your H in that state. It seems clear time that your H is very very confused and it looks like he is starting to realise that he could actually lose you.
Of all the people I follow on here you sitch seems the most volatile. When you post I have no idea what I'm going to read. With others things are positive , negative or just same sort of thing. (Me! ). People like myself look for small signs that things can change but you have to deal with your H telling you how much he loves you and then he talks about OW !!!!!
I'm no vet but things have to settle down. Pink could make another life because Pink is someone of value, kind , caring and basically a good person. Pink COULD move on but its way too soon Pink needs to stand back and let her thoughts and feelings settle. If I could suggest Pink goes to a I/C for herself.
From what you post you are a very emotional and passionate person which in a normal relationship is great. as a W , ,Pink would be a blast , fun , passionate, full of life.
Where you are now that emotional side ( which we all have ) is not good You need to be calm , think about what is best for Pink. You obviously love you H and you don't want your family apart. Your H seems to be using this and he can see that Pink can be a Plan B
I have always admired Toots , she found out about OW and was gone ! ! She emailed her H last week to say she still felt love for him, I bet her H was stunned. Toots is waiting for a reply but whatever her H says he was surprised
My own W thinks it's over for me , I am kind and helpful but never talk about R or M and always carry on with my life. Don't get me wrong W knows I care but the old me would never want anything to do with her after she left and I'm sure she still believes this
Your H needs to see that Pink could be gone for ever. This will also allow you time to process your real feelings which , from what you post, are that you love him and want him back. Pink needs to turn her passionate side on Pink. You don't have to give up on H or the divorce but .Pink needs to dye her hair blue ,get a bike and you and S15 head down the road
Pink. I feel we have a good rapport and I would love to meet you fand I'm sure we would have a great laugh. I'm like most of the guys on here, we made mistakes in our M and we are working at being the best we can be. There are loads of good guys out there. Most of us would kill for a Pink but Pink needs to be led by her heart AND her head. Please step back ,'take some time from H and the craziness and see what Pink wants.
If you want to ignore all the above , my office is 25 mins from Dublin airport traveling at the legal speed limit so if you call I will be there in 9 MINS !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please take care of Pink , your online friends really care about you , RD XXXXX
