Gosh Pink - sounds like you had a very emotional weekend. I think you are quite right to build in some more distance. When I was reading all that you wrote, I remembered a comment someone made on your sitch about "kitty MLCer."

I think your H is still deep in fog, confused, all over the place, feeling sorry for himself. He's telling you, you are his whole world.

What isn't he doing? The one key thing that would be needed to start repairing this - ending things with OW, transparency with you etc. No. He wants to keep all of that right now. In fact he's off to visit her very shortly. All he's saying is that he's concerned about her religion as though he's considering her as a future life partner!

IMHO, you need to protect yourself and your boys from this as best you can and not let it pull you under. He will carry on as he is unless you maintain clear boundaries.

Good for you planning a nice trip over Easter for you and your boys....

((((((((PINK)))))))))

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus