Alpha - the future is now!

[alpha99]

I am going to read these latest responses again and again. I know they are excellent advice. I guess, against my own initial perception, that I am STILL in shock mode. Only 4 months ago we had a nice family holiday. My life has been turned upside down, gobbled up and spewed out. I'm trying hard not to be a victim now. What seems like set in stone will change...at least my R and interaction with kids. I need to APPLY what I understand in theory. Validation is key. I am doing elements of it but getting thrown off piste by W and my emotions.

Whilst speaking to W last night I had DB thoughts running through my head. At times I listened and changed course, at other times I ploughed on into the void. Discipline is key. No good validating for 5 minutes to then start reasoning or blaming. That is so hard to do...but if I want a fighting chance to get my W and family back that's what I need to do.