I'm going to jump on this bandwagon but only because I went through a 4.5 month in house separation and am classic nice guy AND came across wife's new lingerie, so I can make a pretty good guess how you feel. (She still denies OM is an affair by the way)
At this point whatever you do is going to be seen as negative by your W - however its meant, whatever you do. Thats just how she sees you and it helps her justify her position.
Minimising awkwardness - where will that get you? How much minimising of awkwardness is actually more of the same conflict avoidance that I suspect (sorry not fully up to speed on your thread) got you here.
You need to act like the man you want to be, the kind of man you would want your sons to be.
If your boundary is that you won't live in an open marriage then you need to not live in an open marriage and that means she has to leave the marital bedroom. Dont make a big scene just tell her that its not what she sleeps as long as she is not committed to the marriage.
Last edited by jim0987; 03/25/1507:49 AM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
