Alpha - the future is now!

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W just called so kids can say good morning. Asked if I want to have them Saturday. Answered yes of course.

W gonna let me know if we are me going to meet again Friday as W mentioned to do something with kids.

W reiterated wants to be friendly. W said if we can then great, we can get on better and I'll have the kids more.

She was very pleasant on the phone. W said last night she doesn't want to use solicitors re kids. I agreed. I said they wouldnt thank us (her) for it when they get older if we won't both part of their lives. She agreed.

My dilemma is this: she needs time to disassociate negative feelings from me. Her criticisms revolve around not being nice to her and nagging. I need to balance giving her space, not ignoring her (w complained of unanswered texts when she sent mms of son's tooth) but being friendly and nice with re to her criticisms when we meet. Difficult balancing act.

I need to show I can be her friend first and foremost, show I'm there for the kids, not some plan to win her back (though it is really), and over time see if she notices changes and softens.