Pessimistic as I am I don't believe that BUT it for sure is showing her how good I am still with her family. Down the road it might help. For easter I'm invited again on the mothers side. Same game, I feel pretty good about it, confident enough to take on whatever is coming. I'm very positive and hyped today. It's still a bit of a rollercoasters emotionally but my good days are very frequent. I feel the confidence I need.
For some reason I feel super confident about being able to save my marriage, or at least that I'm able to do all the right things so I can be in peace with myself no matter what happens. I feel like I get closer and closer to truly understand what it takes and to understand my W too. Of course I'll be cautious not building expectations. It's hard because that's how our brain is wired. But I'll never fall as deep as I once did, ever again.
One thing I really want to work on is communication. I know talking is no good, actions speak louder but communication is essential and it shows how I present myself and I just don't do well enough with it. And communication can mean more than words too. How I present myself in general is truly something I want to work on. How I feel and how I express myself through words or actions doesn't always fully match. I'm a thinker, a philosophist. I have great thoughts, have a very high emotional intelligence. But the tools for proper expression what's really going on in my head, is lacking talent Are there any books or just general advices on this? Thanks.
Last edited by Complex; 03/25/1505:20 AM.
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15
BUT it for sure is showing her how good I am still with her family. Down the road it might help. For easter I'm invited again on the mothers side. Same game, I feel pretty good about it, confident enough to take on whatever is coming. 
