I'm not sure if I'm beating a dead horse here, but have you read the books? If not, why?
Many of the answers you are asking are in there and it would make it easier for us to offer you suggestions if you had the context of the books on your mind.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.