...I am not saying rush out and file. ...after being on here 8 years, I wish I could save people from the pain, to not have it draw out, to see that this process is really about saving yourself snd your kids, rarely does it have the ending that we hoped for when we came here.
This is about you Tom and your four great kids. Get them through. kat
Hi Kat, you have given me wise words. I understand that my W is on her own journey, and that the only person I can save is myself. And I can show my kids their importance, but I can't even save them. You have a good heart in wanting to save us from the pain most of us on the board are facing.
Journaling: W texted me to let me know d17's braces broke in 2 places, and d17 could get them fixed with an appt. at 2 pm this afternoon. W's car is in the shop, so she asked if I could take her. Being self-employed I can do things like this, and I like doing things like this, so I sent her a text saying "yes".
D17 didn't talk much, we got her braces fixed, took her to her favorite tea place got us some tea, and got her back fairly quickly.
W asked if I could then take her to pick up her car at the car repair place (5 minutes away). I agreed. She asked if I had anything going on, and I mentioned a mutual friend (a guy in our men's group) was having a going away party tonight, and I might go. She wondered whether I was going, and I just said I was a "free agent", I might go.
Then W said she would call her friend who lived near to the bar (live music, darts, pool, it' a fun place),and see if she would go too.
Yeah, no thanks. I am going instead to Divorce Care tonight. I need to talk to the Pastor there tonight, and see if she would consider adding me as a table leader.
Ok, I did think for a minute of going to the bar, and maybe seeing W and having fun like we did in the good 'ol days. But we are different people right now, and W perhaps going to my friend's party just makes me want to stay away.
