Hi Starsky,
When you say "put in the work" what do you mean? I know I always post, usually when I am most sad, with no one to really talk to and then disappear. Believe me I am facing this situation every minute of every day. I am a strong person and am working hard to make all other aspects of my life really good.

I do believe we are headed down the D road. Right now I am just trying to learn to be "me" again after 27 years together raising two kids and running a family business.

I think I'm getting there.....


Me - 49
H - 56
S - 23
D - 20
Married 25 years
H moved out 10/11/13
H moved back in 10/13/13
H moved out again 8/1/14