Newbie needs advice and encouragement

[Kramer]

Update:

Just a quick update regarding my life moving forward. I went to San Francisco on Sunday and had a great time. I came back to one of the upstairs bathroom toilets overflowing. I asked my niece what happened, and she said it had been running for a few hours after it got clogged. She had thought she turned off the water valve, but it was not completely shut off. As you might imagine, there was quite a mess upstairs. The real problem, however, is downstairs. There is extensive water damage to 3 different rooms, floors, ceilings, and walls. Initial estimate is $25,000.

I bring this up to make a point as to how I have changed as a person. 6 months ago, I would have went ballistic and been mad at everybody. Yelling, screaming, and berating. In this instance, I calmy told her that she should have called me and checked to make sure the water was all the way off. This was an accident, and as bad as it is, that's what insurance is for.

Of course, there is nobody to see my response, but that's kind of the point. I have changed and softened as a person, and not just to show somebody how much I have changed.

And for what it's worth, my STBXW knows nothing about it.