Originally Posted By: sandi2

You must take a different view or approach to how you deal with her at this time. You cannot trust her. It is not an issue of her trusting you. She is the one who broke the bond of trust in the M. You did not break your vows. The issue is not about her trusting you. She is the one who cannot be trusted. Do you understand what I mean? All of this has changed b/c of her waywardness. Do not make the mistake of switching roles. She is the guilty party, not you. She cheated, not you.


That is true. But as a husband I was responsible for her needs and I did not gave her what she needed. Am I not the reason for this A coming into our lives? It might sound like a dumb question but I hope you still help me to get my picture a bit clearer. I'm a novice in this situation.


Me 46
W 45
S16 D14 S10
M 20 yrs in June T22
12/14 sleeping in different rooms
01/07/15 she said she wants a separation
02/26/15 I moved out