Trying to Follow DB & DR

[MrBond]

"I don't really know how I can work on not controlling her without her around."

You do it by recognizing those controlling behaviors in other aspects of your life and to others and you change it that way.

"The best I've got in terms of making changes is taking care of the house, the cats, and myself. Trying to become the independent person I was before we met. "

That's fine but those don't help you to grow as a person.

"I haven't really been able to GAL other than see/talk to a couple of friends occasionally and going back to church. Nothing really exciting or new to speak of. I've been curbing back the gaming. It's hard to concentrate on them when my mind keeps screaming for the W. "

Is that really the extent of your GAL? it also means to study about what makes you a better man and doing things that make you grow as a person in general.

You said you read the books, but you don't sound like it.

All of your posts, including the one just before this one, was ALL centered on your W. Well she's not there and there's nothing you can do to control her actions. What can you do independently that will help your M? What is your list of goals as detailed in the books?