When W puts in long hours I can say "You are such a hard worker and do a great job at helping provide for the family."
When W doesn't get certain things done during the day, I will not make a big deal about it. I can also make phone calls. I can also thank her when she does get things done and so more appreciation.
When we get in major arguments, I will not say things that hurt W and not say things to control the argument. When things get heated, I will take a time out.
When wife is not in the mood I can say "I know you are not in the mood right now, would you like to just cuddle for awhile?"
When we go to bed and W wants to cuddle I will say "I like it when you sleep next to me."
When I walk in the house after work I will ask W " So how was your day? Anything exciting happen?"
I can willingly share my truck, tools, TV and everything with W.
When we have problems with the kids, I can take responsibility also and support W through the problems.
I will tell W that I love her more often, hug her more often, hold her hand and cuddle with her.
When W looks beautiful, I will tell her she looks beautiful and tell her that she looks nice in that outfit.
I will tell W how much I appreciate her. I will listen when she is upset and acknowledge her feelings without trying to fix the situation. I will tell W that I love her just the way she is. I will allow W to be who she is not who I think she should be.
How was that? I can see how this will help change my thinking.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
