I learned to judge in my home, and spent most of my adult life judging others to try to make me feel better about my faults. I judged myself just as harshly. It made for a very unhappy, fragile me.

I'm still getting working on it, everyday. It's doable, not easy but doable. I just had to decide to do it.

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BTW, Betsey, yes, I would be nicer to the lady who accidentally let her shopping cart hit my car. I'd be very gracious, if she were apologetic. But if she did it on purpose because I drive a minivan rather than a sports car, then no, I'd speak out. To me, that is the difference.

I think I must have missed the story that you're responding to here but my question is, the end result is the same. You car, an inanimate object, was damaged.

Why is your emotional response different?

How would your response to either person change the situation for you?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss