Rock Bottom at 30

[skr4luv]

Since I read about DB and 180, I stopped being in the chasing/
courting mode. Which I did excessively after D-Bomb.
Recently, My WAW asked me if I love her, and I didn't give her
a straight answer.
Just told her that as long as she's in contact with the OM,
I'm really trying to hold back my feelings for her. I told her
again she has to go NC in order for us to move on.
She then told me again about differences between OM and me, how he's so into her and I appear not to be. How he knows what he wants in life and career and that I hate my job etc.

From my understanding, 180 is doing the opposite of what a S did
during the relationship. I'm guilty of showing little affection
and admiration for my W, something she's defintely getting
from the OM. If I do the opposite, then I would actually have
to prove her that I do admire her and please her, right?
These are the things she's been looking for in me.

According to many posts her, this shouldn't be done. But I understand everything is a case to case basis.
I can really use some advice on how to move forward from here.