RAI, it is not a requirement to have separate bedrooms. I was referring to the reason we tell men not to be the one who leaves the MBR if his WW doesn't want to share a room and tries to get him to be the one to leave. I wanted to point out the purpose behind the man staying in the MBR.

Many WW's want the H to leave the BR, but some never say anything about it. It is strictly his decision if he insists she leaves the BR. I am not saying he should or shouldn't without knowing the specifics in the stitch.

Let me point out that none of this is to use as a shock technique. Men need to let that go.

RAI, It sounds as if you need to find confidence in yourself and in the purposes of the action taken. If she has absolutely no boundaries to honor, no consequences due to her behavior........and you fear taking any action will cause you to look bad, then I would guess you have demoted yourself and have accepted a passive, powerless position in your M and in your family.

I understand you don't want the children to see you as some villain. Right now, they are watching......and learning......and will use what they learn to apply in their own M some day. Isn't it more important to be the parent-teacher that demonstrates how a man carries himself during a like situation?

How will you deal with your children if, in the near future, they rebel against everything you thought had been instilled, and they defy you at every turn? A WW is very much like a rebellious, resentful, and disrespectful teenager.

What is your role? Are you the leader, or a passive buddy who doesn't want to rock the boat?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!