Part 17 - Edz, living in interesting times

[edz]

Morning all.

Well texts from w this morning, s is feeling a little better but they are still having some issues with the laptop. I know roughly the issue.

Didn't help I was exceedingly tired last night of course after a long day (worked on the laptop for over 3 hours last night).

I've been back to w this morning to say I think she should talk to s and ask if he'd be more comfortable if she comes along and sits in the stands during swimming (he's mentioned mummy coming along - I know she wont come swimming but I'd like her to talk to him on it, if she chooses to come thats great if not I dont want to be the go between as I dont think its helping matters in his mind)

I also mentioned a work around for their machine and when its convenient to let me know so I can put the patch on. Two reasons for this firstly I don't want to be in her space (or face) for hours and hours again under what seems a pretext and secondly verging into IT repairman/friend again. I'll do anything for s and to make sure he has what he needs but I don't want to appear to shoehorning myself in to her space until I'm well and truly invited.

We shall see I suppose.

Duality today, I don't believe that much will have changed in w's mind on relationship (think that was a 16 hour day making me paranoid) but worried about s. I think he feels "in the middle" of all this he's asking for me a lot when he's with w which is antagonising her slightly as she tries to help him with studies and upsetting him when he has to leave me.

Its both wonderful to be missed and loved by him and heartbreaking that he's upset over it.

We're going to look to see what we can find in the way of counselling we can agree on for him. Any advice from UK db'ers?