Should i expose the affair, or?

[Swabby]

So after a few months of finding out about my WAW EA, and in 3 different cases having found out she was still in contact, and the depth of it (calling each other BF/GF, "i love you", etc.), i've found out she's STILL involved in talking with him daily via Skype (he's a pilot, living in AUS, but calls her 3-6 times a day).

I've been working my ass off to GAL, lost 18 lbs (in a good, exercise driven way), made dramatic changes in my person, and how i am trying to think of the future.

My concern is that WAW has asked that we do a D "just between the two of us", which is her way of covering it all up so no one else knows, as she says its no longer happening.

Shouldn't i just out this to family and friends? I know everything in DB says not to if i want reconciliation, but it also seems like she's just completely enthralled in this thing and isn't paying any attention to the massive changes. I'm not doing the GAL to win her back, but it would be nice if it made a little blip in the past few months.

Michelle mentions most affairs fizzle out after 6 months (been 2-3 now already), but while she s going off and enjoying the good feelings, i'm stuck to deal with the fallout (typical, i know).

If i say nothing, won't she just continue with impunity? If i say something to family/friends, i'm sure she'll be pissed and upset, and it might backfire even more.

What is one to do? It tears me up to know now its still continuing, but do i turn the other cheek and just try, as hard as it might be, to walk the path of not talking to others about my daily reality?

After weeks of feeling like some slight movement "might" be possible in a positive direction, the finding out again, and her admission she wants to leave is causing me to lose focus all over again. I fear by not taking charge and outing it to shine a light on it, then i take on the hurt and pain all myself, and just have to suffer through it.