For the Newcomer LBH who has a wayward wife Part 2

[Mozza]

I'm not sure if it's the right forum, but I have a longstanding question about a tenet of DR.

It's about "script".

I often read on here that a WAS is following a "script". I understand what it means: almost all WAS follow similar steps and say similar things. I agree.

What I don't understand is why it diminishes those WAS words in any way. The word "script" is often used to reassure the LBS, as if these words are not really heartfelt by the WAS. The WAS are living a fairly widespread experience and humans tend to live them in similar fashion. We all follow a "script" when we stress out about college admissions, fall in love with our future spouse, have a baby, visit Paris, etc. It does not make the experience any less real. In fact, I would venture to say (and I've actually seen this idea somewhere here) that the LBS also follow their own script. There is the begging, crying and pleading of the beginning, then there is the anger, the acceptance, etc. Can the WAS look at us and say "Oh, it's all script anyway" as if they can dismiss it?

So when we say the WAS follows a "script", what is that supposed to mean to the LBS?